Who are your lockdown companions?

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

This is an often heard quote, along with “show me your friends and I will show you your future” and you better believe this saying is the truth! Unfortunately research shows the veracity of this goes quite a bit further than just the five friends you surround yourself with. Much like dropping a stone in the pond, the ripple effect extends to friends of friends too.

You are the average of the FIVE people you surround yourself with and it’s actually much bigger than that. So take a look around and make sure you’re in the right surroundings. David Burkas

During lockdown I have been confronted with a wide range of emotions and the above saying has been going around and around in my head. What or who are the five friends I have been surrounding myself with? They have been resignation, frustration, condemnation, isolation and anger. These pals brought along sadness, claustrophobia and at times insomnia. Do you see my point? My better half on the other hand has other friends and thank goodness for that.

He has been fortunate enough to continue with his work and his life has some semblance or normalcy, but still, he has chosen his friends wisely. He is confronted by major decisions that could possibly affect hundreds of people and has to combat many challenges on a daily basis. He wakes up early every morning, whilst the rest of the household take full advantage of sleeping in. He studies his bible, sends out an encouraging message to our church’s men’s group (not because he has to) and from there heads off to work.

At work he starts off the business day with prayer and a word for his staff and he ends off his day with communion and prayer when we finish supper. You see, he decided to surround himself with biblical lockdown friends called faith, hope, scripture, prayer and joy. He isn’t living in ignorance but he just refuses to entertain anythings other than those five friends.

May the God of hope fill you with joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13

Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Romans 12:12

Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds. James 1:2

The difference between my husband and I is that the pressures of the trials he is facing caused him to break ties with his friends that were having a bad influence on him and I continued to entertain mine. But God! He intervenes, He guides and He always provides a way for us to keep walking out our faith in a manner that is pleasing to Him.

But God! He intervenes, He guides and provides a good way for us to walk.

God’s grace abounds in these times, with or without us consciously being aware of it. If you haven’t realised it, God is extending to you and I a period of time that allows us to be so acutely aware of His presence and to become connected again to His goodness. For us to reassess what we are entertaining in the secret places of our minds.

I am not saying you need to take up a new hobby or learn a new skill during lockdown, but please, use this time to become aware of what God is wanting you to surround yourself with, during lockdown and beyond.

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3 thoughts on “Surrounded”

    1. Wow, I will definitely need to change my self-chosen surroundings – thanks for the awesome reminder!

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